Choosing Love Over Fear

On February 10th, just 8 weeks ago, my beautiful sister in law Suzanne Sheridan Gordon, died after a 2 year battle with brain cancer. The evening after her funeral I had the extraordinary experience of spending that evening on my brother's patio in Florida, talking for hours with the my niece Emily and nephew Andrew's friends, who were there in force, carrying their Mother's casket and being so full of love that shone so brightly through their grief. These young men and women, all in their 20's were sharing the grief of their friend, and the inconceivable loss of a Mother at such an early age.

 We talked for hours, and I felt so honored to be with them. In our conversation, in answer to a question posed, I said the conclusion I have come to, about everything in life, is that there is always one choice.

Love or Fear.

They spoke about the fear in their lives, about the state of the world they are inheriting, about relationships, about being enveloped by fear. How do we find it, they asked, how do we find the love in the midst of feeling and being enveloped in our own fear?

I knew that there was only one way to bring the reality of the feeling of love into the foreground. It was their own love, that we were sitting together in and yet not feeling consciously. And I said that to them. You are here, in love and for love. You are friends in love and for love, and that love is stronger than anything else.

And in that moment we all fell in love with each other. Sitting in the midst of totally heart rending grief, we sat in love. 

This resonance, this living frequency, this vibration, can both be felt and heard. We are living in a world made up of energy. Atoms, molecules, quarks, etc. Everything is vibrating at its own frequency. Whichever one we are vibrating with is what echoes not only through our entire nervous system, but through our minds, our brains, and our lives.

I have noticed that as we move through life, we are constantly presented with opportunities moment by moment, day by day, to choose love instead of fear. Not that it is easy, but if one begins to make the conscious choice, the pathways in our nervous system, the neurotransmitters, all those neuro-peptides flying through us, our hearts and minds, all the elements of our being, become aligned with love and the choice becomes easier, until it is our habit and our superpower.

I am not talking of Valentine's day, hearts and flowers, etc., etc. I am talking about the unlimited power of Love, that somehow by its very nature and being can envelop fear and dissolve it. And it does.

It seems this aspect of life presents itself most often when change arises. A new situation, a new possibility, a dream, a hope is manifested or manifesting and it offers evolution on multiple levels. We ask for growth and expansion and then when it appears, we feel our reality go beyond our control into the next unknown. We feel, or perceive on some deep level that this may mean, and most probably means change, big change. Which means that our present status quo, our life as we know it, can quickly become filled with unknowns, rather than knowns that we have created and are seemingly in control of. It asks us, it demands of us that we get bigger. 

It is at this moment that fear makes itself known. And it is in this moment we make a choice.

We will hear all the reasons that we cannot go forward, all the impossibilities, all the no's.

People in our lives will, especially those who will be affected by the change, begin to fight back with formidable resistance, because I have noticed, (as one notices a ton of bricks falling on one's head), that most people are very frightened of change because it denotes instability, and this both creates and feeds fear.

Actually, we all know the feeling and the difference. When we choose love, we expand. We get excited, we see infinite possibilities. Creativity is ignited, imagination is empowered. Synchronicities appear constantly. One realizes that coincidence doesn't exist. It is riding the big wave. Taking the big jump. Skiing the huge mountain. Jumping out of the plane. It is huge. It cannot be controlled. One must commit to being receptive, to allowing the infinite to become a friend and ally.
It is joyful, exciting, filled with inspiration. It heals everyone and everything.

Or, we choose fear. It is more familiar, it may feel safer in a strange way. But it contracts us on every level. Mind, body, spirit, heart. It makes us smaller, it stops movement. Being frozen in fear. It chokes inspiration. Ideas cannot live in it. Possibilities become impossibilities. It makes us sad, and lonely. A certain song goes out of the Universe. We let our dreams wither and die for lack.

Some part of us always knows. And grieves.

There is always a choice.  I choose Love. Every moment. I choose Love. No matter what this crazy world looks like. I choose Love. No matter how many times someone says "You can't do that.", I choose Love. No matter the obstacles, the sabotage, the loud voices that are feeding fear. I choose Love.

It is as simple as saying that. Each day. 

"I choose Love."

Say it. Feel it. Choose it.

Because, really. 

You are it.

We all are.

I Choose Love.


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